Welcome to the V.S. Morgan site! To honor my brother's birthday (Sept 11) and his memory, I will be donating $1 to The Trevor Project for each comment my blog receives this week up to $50. I will also randomly select one commenter to receive a $10 Amazon Gift Card.
I lost my nineteen-year-old brother to suicide in 1996. He was my best friend and only six months earlier had given me away at my wedding. He wrote in my wedding book, "Give me a nephew to influence." My son never got to meet his uncle.
My brother was in his senior year of high school. He was dealing what many of us are or have experienced - dealing with school, living in a small town, rough times at home with a single mom, sibling moving out of state, wondering if and where they should go to college, and trying to find a date for the upcoming Valentine's dance. The class clown, my brother hid his sadness and darker side. While on the surface there weren't obvious signs, his writing and some of his behavior at school were troubling.
If you are having thoughts of suicide, please reach out to a family member, friend, or a suicide hotline. Know that you have worth and you are loved even if it doesn't feel that way. My brother's memorial was held in a church because the local funeral home wasn't big enough to hold everyone who came. It broke my heart to hear all the heartfelt sentiments expressed about him. Words he would never hear.
THERE IS NO SHAME IN ASKING FOR HELP.
Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or 911
As a friend or family member, be aware of risk factors and warning signs of suicide. If you are concerned someone you care about is depressed, talk to them and encourage them to speak to a mental health professional. If your loved one mentions suicide or is displaying warning signs or troubling behavior, seek immediate help. Reaching out for help may seem extreme or uncomfortable but is so important.
This world moves fast, and we're always on the move. Be sure to tell your loved
ones how much you love and care about them. How much they mean to you. It's so easy to take this for granted. I spoke with my mother on the phone the day before my brother died. I asked to speak with him but she said she needed to go - they were off to run errands and then go to separate events (her to visit her boyfriend up North and him to a sleep over with friends). I said, "Please tell him I love him." She said in a rush, "I will." The next day my brother was dead and for a long time I grieved that I didn't have the chance to say the words to him directly. I wondered did he truly know how much I loved him? After all these years, I've come to terms with this. I tell my husband and son I love them every day. Not just saying the words but pausing and confirming that no matter what else is going on, they are my light.
If you are a gun owner with children or teens in your home, please lock up your guns when you're not home. My mom had a gun safe but got in the habit of placing her loaded gun in her closet and was often away on weekends. My brother could have attempted to take his life by other means but other ways have the possiblity of failure and the attemptee can been saved. Attempts with guns rarely fail.
If you've had a loved one who commmited suicide, please seek help and support. The grieving, the questions of "whys" and "what ifs", and the guilt is brutal. Hugs to you.
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V.S. Morgan has lived all over the US but calls Minnesota her home now. Her family includes her hubby, son, and a menagerie of pets.